Video Review: The Best Thing

 

Charles Holton, LCSW

 

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Stephen Gilligan, Ph.D., will be presenting the 32nd annual NCSCH Spring Conference on March 9 and 10.  You can find my 1997 interview with him, “Touching the Tender Center,” on the internet at two sites:  his website, www.stephengilligan.com, and at Leonard Bohanon’s Self-Relations site, http://www.hal-pc.org/~boha/sr.html.  As a bit of a preview for the upcoming workshop, I’m going to review his training video “Stephen Gilligan:  Demonstrating the Principles and Practices of Self-Relations Psychotherapy” available through Andrews and Clark Explorations, Inc. at www.masterswork.com or (800) 476-1619.

The best thing about the video is not Steve’s succinct summary of the principles that drive self-relations, although it is good to hear his poetic version of the symptom as invitation to transformation.  The best thing about the video is not his articulation of the seven-step process that constitutes a self-relations psychotherapy session, although it is helpful to break it down into components that are easily understood and digestible.  The best thing is not even that he uses three different demonstration subjects of different gender, race, sexual preference and presenting complaints, although it is good to see how his approach changes under different conditions.

The best thing is watching him work.  That’s the real reason to watch this video.  You get to watch Steve work.  It’s hard to describe on paper the subtlety of the shifts between slow, rhythmic, hypnotic pacing and normal everyday speech, the nuances of push and pull between client readiness and resistance and his bold challenge and gentle holding, and especially the way he uses body-based felt sense, mindfulness of breathing and emotional centeredness to provide clients with an experiential basis for opening to the possibilities of the crisis that brings them to therapy.  He brings his full self to the therapy process.

It would be shallow and misdirected to talk about how he uses pronouns to make his points as a technical device.  True, the “neglected self” is sometimes addressed directly, as a dissociated “you” different from the “you” of the client’s normal self, sometimes addressed in the third person, “he” or “she” – but , significantly, never as “it,” never as a symptom to be cleverly therapized away.  The reason he uses pronouns differently is because the self-relations approach is about opening to the awakening that symptoms represent, and sponsoring the deep listening that mends the rift between everyday consciouness and the deeper, somatic knowing that often first emerges as a complaint.  “Every self-relations session,” he says, “is an experiment in consciousness.”

It’s a moving experience to see how far three different clients come in their first session with Steve in what their complaints mean and how they experience them.  The work is not over, and this isn’t a dog-and-pony show about miracle cures.  But it’s a vivid demonstration of solid clinical work that integrates three divergent but related threads:  focused hypnotic therapy in the tradition of Milton Erickson, body and breath mindfulness in the tradition of yoga and meditation, and depth psychology in the tradition of Carl Jung.

Seeing Steve work and experiencing his training directly is also the reason to come to the Spring Conference in March.  It’s a rare opportunity to experience a master in the art of psychotherapy right here at home.  I hope to see you at the Friday Center !

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